There comes a time in life when you lose someone very close to you. This kind of loss, a loss of a parent, somebody who raised you and nurtured you all your life can be quite devastating. When a person experiences something as intense as this, it becomes very difficult to cope with the complete spectre of human emotions. Sometimes, it even seems that there is a hole in your soul that will never heal. But it does not necessarily have to be this way. There are a few things you could do in order to deal with this loss the best way you can:
Let Yourself Grieve
Shock. This is something that occurs to most of the people who go through an emotional trauma like this one. Whether you have expected it or it was sudden, this kind of loss can never go unnoticed. Being in a state of shock is completely understandable, but it is important to allow yourself to grieve properly and to feel it. Try not to block and repress your emotions; allow yourself to feel anger and sadness, but also allow yourself to feel guilt and relief. These are all normal emotions that people experience during hardship and there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Take Your Time
It is very important to understand that grief takes time and like that, it is a very unique process, which every person experiences in a different way. Keeping this in mind, make sure to let yourself grieve. Take as much time as you need and do not allow others to belittle your grieving period. Also, remember that this process is inconstant. The pain will come and it will go and it will always circle around you. When somebody you have loved very much passes away, you can never really heal; you can only accept it and learn how to deal with it later on.
Some people, who encounter a difficult period as this one, tend to close down and to repress their feelings. Some people simply wish to mourn on their own without sharing their emotions with others. This is completely understandable, but could reflect negatively further on. It is a good idea to seek some support during these difficult times. This does not necessarily have to be professional support from a psychologist or a support group, but a support from some other family members or close friends. It is also important to remember that everybody grieves differently and sometimes family members should offer the right kind of support to each other.
Treasure Your Memories
Perhaps one of the hardest things to do when mourning is to think and focus on the good memories. But as difficult as it seems, this can greatly help you deal with this kind of loss. Try to remember all the good times you had, the laughs you shared and the memories you made. It is important to celebrate their life and remember them by the good they did. Also, try to fulfill their wishes, to do things like they would have wanted. Arrange a loving funeral to properly say goodbye. Let professionals from funeral homes deal with these arrangements in order to create an individual expression of goodbye. Respect their choices and remember to respect yourself.
Losing someone you love, someone as close as a parent will leave you with a hole in your soul. But it is your duty not to leave that hole empty, rather to fill it with countless happy memories, experiences and mementos of your good times together. It will be hard…but it will get easier.