We have all been there: the disappointment and fear you feel after having ended another relationship. And every time it seems even harder and harder to find the right partner for you.
1. Learn to love yourself
Many people make mistakes by rushing into a new relationship right after they ended the previous one, but that is wrong. That way there is no time for neither the mind nor the heart to get over the partner, and it does not leave us time to reflect on what went wrong and was there something we could have done to prevent the bad ending.
2. Enjoy being single
Starting a new relationship so fast also does not leave us time to enjoy being single and recollect the life we had while in a relationship. If we leave no time for this we may never learn anything about ourselves in the long run.
We all need that time to reconnect with our family and friends. We need new hobbies and activities to fill all that free time!
The fact is we always learn new things, and every relationship, be it a romantic or a friendly one, changes our lives, be it for better or for worse. That is why we need this single time, and it is better to make it a quality one.
Once you get over the relationship, you can start thinking about starting a new one. This implies taking into consideration what was it like before, what was good and should be kept, and what was bad and should change.
The most important thing is to set the goal you want and go for it. It does not matter if you change it on the way, at least you will have a starting point.
For example, if you want your partner to work in the stock market, there is no point hanging out in the library every day because chances of meeting him (or her) there are relatively slight.
4. Get out more
Getting out more does not refer to night life only. You need to know where to find the people which interest you, and modify your interest in a way which would give you the chances of meeting them.
Of course, exaggerating will never bring you any good, at least not in the long run. If you hate sports and you start visiting bars while soccer is on, not only will you annoy viewers, but also waste time.
It is always possible to develop an interest in something new, but, if you were never keen on sports, it is slightly possible you will become such a fan in almost no time.
5. Rely on experts
After all, we get really confused with all the advice coming from all over. Our parents never liked our boyfriends or girlfriends; our aunts want to see us with the son of their neighbour who works in our hometown and wants a bunch of kids within the next five years, our friends keep setting us up with their friends we never liked; our coworkers are already married and have ideas of their own…
It is very nice of them, but whom to trust? Well, why not rely on elite dating services? They are experts in the field and can be of real help, because they are there for the people who already know quite well what they want. They can also help you with ideas about what you are looking for and how much of yourself you want to invest into a new relationship.
And finally, if you have anything else to add, please feel free to write your experience in the comments section below – we would love to hear what you have to say.