Grandparents need to tell their stories. Not only for their benefit but for yours as well. By reliving past events they are given the opportunity to remember the importance of their own life. As activities are limited for the elderly, even if they have the best care, like that offered at OneSource Home Health and Hospice, it can still become confining to be limited by what their body is able to do.
When they are allowed to revisit days gone by it helps them to know that they are important. They have given a lot to the world and they still have even more to give. Their stories are worthwhile and it is up to those around them to let them know that we need to hear what they have to say.
You might be thinking, “Why do I need to hear what they have to say?” If you are one of those people then you probably need what they have the most. Grandma has lived 40+ years longer than you. Behind her soft smile and fuzzy eyes, she has experienced loss, heartache, real happiness, true love, and life.
She has actually lived and has the stories to prove it. If we are willing to listen we can learn so much about humility, forgiveness, and change. No one could have lived 60 or more years without having gone through the cycle of highs and lows. Our grandparents have learned to pick themselves up during the toughest of times and create an incredible life out of nothing.
If you have a hard time focusing on your grandparent’s stories here are a few suggestions to help make their tales come to life.
Pull Out the Photo Album
If you can see what Uncle John looked like as kid while grandpa tells you the story of little Johnny building wings out of paper and trying to fly by jumping off the barn roof, this will help bring the story to life. Plus, I doubt you’ll ever look at big Uncle John the same way again after seeing scrawny little overalled Johnny in black and white.
Visit a Memorable Site
Take grandma to the place grandpa proposed to her over 40 years ago. She’ll still remember like it was yesterday and you’ll get to picture your young grandma beaming and blushing while grandpa fiddled with his words, trying to ask her to marry him. You will see a whole new side of your grandmother that you never even considered before.
Listen to Their Favorite Song
Sit down and listen to your grandpa’s favorite songs with him. Chances are as you listen he will remember the time he took Betty Sue to the dance. I’m sure he’ll say she was the pretty girl at his school and he was so nervous. Listening to the music will help you be there with him as he tells his story.
Just like any great old story, there will be lessons that were learned from each experience in their life. If you are truly listening to what they have to say you won’t have to make the same mistakes they made years ago. You can learn and grow from their experiences. There are so many things you can learn from your grandparents if you’re only willing to listen.